Before you read, this is an event that happened to me back in February and I wrote this blog but didn't feel comfortable sharing until now. I will write the update at the end of this blog post right now.
I have a story to share right now about choices, parents, and friends. Currently happening right now but it's teaching me life lessons.
I'm sitting in my room yesterday when my mom comes in and wants to talk to me. She expresses that she feels that there's something wrong with me. As she shares her concerns I try to assure her that there was nothing wrong and everything was fine. But she insisted that she had a feeling with her mother's instinct that something was wrong. After a few awkward minutes I had confessed to something I did, nothing seriously bad (maybe I'll talk about it in the future if I feel necessary), but it was enough to make her disappointed. She knows who I always hang out with and assumed who else did it and asked. I then explained everything to her, since she knew who I was with and who I always hang out with. She explained that she feels that their parents should know, too. Knowing that they might get in trouble, I pleaded to not talk to their parents but they insisted and said that I can talk to my friends first.
I then called my friends and told them I needed to talk to them. Before I talked to them I was worried. I knew that they would be mad and as much as I can't live without them, I knew that I needed to be honest with my parents and I was preparing to have to live without them for however long I have to. Now keep in mind, I confessed to what I did and never told my mom about them and she just figured it out. We went to pick up my friend to take her to her to my other friends house to talk.
Before we started our chat I expressed to them how much I love them, how much I care for them, I told them that I would do anything for them. We've had so many great memories and I couldn't afford to lose them. I went on to explain to them the chat I had with my parents. And their response was exactly what I predicted. They were mad that I had told my parents and thought that I had snitched on them. I attempted to save my friendship with everything I had but I knew that what I had done was right for me and I was going to have to accept the outcome. My mom was able to explain to them in more detail as we drove to a church broadcast. I expressed for the last time how much I cared for them and let them go on their way.
Now I tell this because I want everyone to learn from this. I haven't been able to concentrate at all today. I left school early today because I couldn't handle being at school with all the stress and thoughts. But I've learned a few things from this.
1. No matter what happens always have faith in your friends. Don't ever let them go. You may think that they have left but NO, they are always there and you just can't give up. Right now they're gone but I am not losing hope. I care about them so much that I will stay and try to keep them.
2. Let God take control. He will help you through your trials and will guide you. He is there for a reason. Jesus atoned for our sins. He died for us. And he knows what we are going through. You're not going through it alone. God is there to answer our prayers. Don't ever give up.
And one last thing. Don't always wish bad upon them. I would rather my two best friends who are closer with each other keep their friendship and me not be allowed to hang out with them than to ruin their friendship. I see how much they cherish their friendship and understand that their friendship is more important. I care about them so much that I'm willing to give up my friendship so they can keep theirs. Who knows how long it will be until things are resolved but for now all I gotta do is hope for the best in their future and just trust God.
Three months later: so I didn't know how things would go. I was worried for weeks to come that they wouldn't talk to me forever. It was about a week or two later and after a few long text of apologizing, they started accepting my apology and recognizing that we all did something wrong. We have now hung out a few time's and I have been there for them whenever they needed someone. In fact, I might be hanging out with one of them tonight if things work out. So in the end, what God wants for us is what he'll give us and if he wants things to work out for us he will make it work out. "Trust in the Lord" Proverbs 3:5-6 because he will help you and guide you if you have faith that he will help you. Michael Skaggs
